Are wedding traditions a thing of the past?
Whilst ‘something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue’ may still be a favourite, don’t ask the bride’s family to pay…
Weddings are a joyous and momentous occasion, and people seem to be particularly fond of many of the traditional aspects. In fact, of 12 wedding traditions surveyed by YouGov, seven were still favoured by more than half of people. The most popular wedding traditions are the groom having a best man (78%), the bride and groom’s first dance (75%) and the best man’s speech (73%).
People were only in favour of dropping three wedding traditions: the bride’s family paying for the wedding was the most unpopular, with 76% saying it should be dropped against 9% saying it should be preserved. Indeed, the majority of people (56%) feel that the bride and groom should bear the main cost of the wedding, followed by both sets of parents (30%).
The other two wedding traditions people would like to see dropped are the bride promising to obey her husband (70% of all respondents, and 80% of women), and giving out wedding favours to guests (42%).
The speeches at wedding receptions are traditionally a male-dominated affair, with the groom, best man and the father-of-the-bride all expected to make a speech – and people seem to be broadly happy with this arrangement. Six in 10 (62%) believe the best man should give a speech, as well as 51% for the groom and 48% for the father-of-the- bride. Despite the increasing popularity for the bride giving a speech, though, just 16% of people think that she should.
The YouGov survey showed that opinion is split on which guests should be invited to bring their children to a wedding, with three in 10 (29%) saying that only children of close friends and family should be allowed to attend. A further 25% think that all guests should be allowed to bring children, whilst 21% think that only children of close family should be allowed. Only 9% of people think that children shouldn’t be allowed at all.
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When it comes to invitations, most people would prefer to receive a wedding invitation by post (61%). A further 26% don’t care one way or the other, whilst only 3% would prefer some sort of online or email invitation. They also feel it is perfectly acceptable for the couple to register a list of wedding presents (74%) or to ask for money instead (59%).
Likewise, the survey also provides help for wedding attendees. Should a couple send a wedding invitation with no information or guidance on presents, the majority of people opt to either: give money to the couple (28%), give a gift voucher (26%) or a boxed present (21%). Similarly, if the wedding invitation doesn’t provide information on bringing a plus one, the majority (52%) of people believe this means that you should not bring a guest.